no one can hurt you

Unless you give them permission to...

I was talking to a girlfriend about the hurt i was feeling and i was trying to explain to her that maybe i am giving this person too much power over me to affect me in this way. That is when i stumbled upon this site, "break the illusion".

I like what this guy has written here:

No one can tear you down, unless you give them power over you to do so.

No one can hurt you*, unless you let them.

No one can deflate you, without your permission.

No one can tell your truth, without your okay.

No one can make you angry, unless you give them that ability.

No one can define you, without your authority.

And likewise, no one can inspire you, inflate you, teach you, encourage you or motivate you unless you bestow upon them that power.

Doesn’t it sting, a bit, knowing that all the pain* and all the suffering you ever caused yourself was self-inflicted? Of course, you’re causing that sting, too. Maybe you had to experience the pain and suffering to get to where you are today.

 If someone gives you a gift of their anger, you don’t have to accept it. They can keep it. And they will own it, not you.

It is true. Wise words. Now let me go and apply it...

reminders

"All too often you get so involved in things that you look at life through a microscope. Amplifying manifold, an invisible speck becomes an insurmountable mountain. Put down the microscope and imagine yourself a year from now looking back at today: 'Does this really matter?'"

 

photo credit: mattcaplin

"God has more in store for us then we can ever predict, and what we fear are bad choices frequently turn out for the best, because our hidden aspirations know better where we are going than our rational minds."

like a garden

"Life, in all it's messiness, is like an awesome garden within me."  - JT 

image: abby

Sometimes a song can say it best when you can't find the words, because you're choked up in your emotions..

When i had you, i protected my heart, and i didn't feel a thing,  but after we parted....

Remember those walls i built

Well, Baby they're tumbling down

And they didn't even put up a fight

They didn't even make up a sound

I found a way to let you in

But i never really had a doubt

Standing in the light of your halo

I got my angel now

It's like i've been awakened

Every rule i had you breakin'

It's the risk that i'm takin'

I ain't never gonna shut you out

Hit me like a ray of sun

Burning through my darkest night

You're the only one that i want

Think i'm addicted to your light

-Beyonce, Halo 

forever and ever

On this Valentine's day, i want to say...

lost

I've lost him.

And it hurts.

alone

Feeling the loneliest i've ever felt..

 

image by yousma

shot

who ever said it's "best to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"...needs to be shot. obviously this person didn't know that love can be such

a b!tch .