no one can hurt you

Unless you give them permission to...

I was talking to a girlfriend about the hurt i was feeling and i was trying to explain to her that maybe i am giving this person too much power over me to affect me in this way. That is when i stumbled upon this site, "break the illusion".

I like what this guy has written here:

No one can tear you down, unless you give them power over you to do so.

No one can hurt you*, unless you let them.

No one can deflate you, without your permission.

No one can tell your truth, without your okay.

No one can make you angry, unless you give them that ability.

No one can define you, without your authority.

And likewise, no one can inspire you, inflate you, teach you, encourage you or motivate you unless you bestow upon them that power.

Doesn’t it sting, a bit, knowing that all the pain* and all the suffering you ever caused yourself was self-inflicted? Of course, you’re causing that sting, too. Maybe you had to experience the pain and suffering to get to where you are today.

 If someone gives you a gift of their anger, you don’t have to accept it. They can keep it. And they will own it, not you.

It is true. Wise words. Now let me go and apply it...